Better think first instead of repenting later

Fortunately this has never happened to me, but I have been seeing this happening with people around me back from the time I was doing my Bachelors of Engineering. I am sure that many of you also had been through or came across such situations either in your life or observed this in your friends life...

Without dragging it too much, setting the context about what I wanted to talk about today, "getting into a relationship". I might be wrong and this is only my view as I never came across such a situation till now in my life.

I have seen people get into a love relationship, being in that relationship for years and finally when it comes to marriage, unfortunately they don't succeed in convincing their parents and end up marrying a person who they don't want to... But I am surprised why don't they think of this before they decide to get into the relationship ( again not very sure what it means by saying getting into a relationship ).

And the reasons for the parents not agreeing are like our castes doesn't match, our religions are not the same, or our financial backgrounds are not the same but I would like to ask "don't you people know this before ? Are you not aware that these questions will have to answered someday ? Then why didn't you take a step forward at that point of time itself and discuss this your parents ? "

The answers which I got from people when I asked then the same questions are "when you don't know if he/she is the right person you want to live with , how do you start a conversation with your parents is it worth making a conversation at that point of time ? " Although I didn't answer it anytime, but I would say Yes it is really a worth of time having such conversation with your loved ones in the beginning only even if you are not sure, what's wrong in telling them ? you can say I am still thinking but are you OK with my decision ? If their answer is a NO it always a NO right ... so you will at least know upfront that something is not going to work out...instead of having an assumption that you will be able to convince then and finally ending up you getting convinced ...

Friends,
Just think of this once and you will never end up in a love failure!!

Vacation Time

Not sure why I made this is as a habit, every year at the end of June I take a vacation from my hectic schedule of office work with out even having a plan of what to do during this time. But I realize that this is the best time I have every year to think about myself and spend sometime with myself :)

All my friends & family members might be thinking I am being crazy by doing this, as I would have said no when they asked me to take a day off because of some personal work or a wedding function to attend. But at that time I felt that my job, because of which I am living a successful & happy life, was more important for me than attending a wedding function.

But because of the wonderful company I work for, I always get an opportunity to take time to think about myself for a good amount of time once I am done with my fiscal year projects and work related responsibilities, THANKS to my company and my team !!!

This time it is 10 days of vacation, which starts from 23/06 and haven't planned anything yet..:-| But I have a new addition to my family to spend my vacation this time, my new Honda City :). Let's see how the vacation goes this time !!

But this really helps me each year to take time to really recharge myself, given a chance I would like everyone to try this once a year and you will also make it a habit :) ....
 

Out of your control

Few days back I came to know about a philosophy about how should we react to situations and understand them, will try to share few insights on the same...

Many times we worry about things which we can't get off our mind  and start thinking more and more about them to find a way to get rid of them...so sometimes I feel that there will be things which we cannot change or we cannot take control over, worrying about such things is a mere waste of time...

Here is philosophy or the prayer which I read a few days back and was inspired of the understanding behind it. It is called "the serenity prayer". Many of us might have already heard of it, but I know there are also few people like me :) who might be hearing about this for the first time, so let me put it down..

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

I didn't even knew the meaning of serenity when I first heard of this...:) serenity means "the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled."

If you are thinking that praying to god is what I am talking about, sorry that is not what I meant...The concept which I liked is the wordings in the above saying about realizing the difference between the things which one can change and one cannot change. After coming across this I started thinking about the situation in which I am in and segregate it first into one this category (which I CAN CHANGE and I CANNOT CHANGE)and then take the decision accordingly instead of over thinking in a directionless manner...:) 

Once you are conscious about this difference you will have a happier life :)

Taking Off....

I decided to create my blog today after getting inspired & motivated by reading the blog posts of one of my role models in life. Not sure if I will be helpful to someone by blogging but realized that this might be one of the good way to get things off my mind :)