Busy Days - Part IV

Today I somehow happen to realize that I have moved a bit far away from all my close friends... Not sure if its because of my actions or it is natural that everyone is busy in their own lives :)

There were days when I used to spend most of my time on Messengers, Hangout dinners, late night drives around the city, nightouts at friend's place and the list goes on... Wonderful memories I had with lots of  amazing people :)

Today I realize that it's been very long that I even talked to many of my 'Jigri Dosths' on phone, chat, social network etc. 😓... Everyone is busy in their own ever changing world, so am I :)

But this is the choice which I made in life and I should take responsibility of the consequences as well...

Miss you friends!!! (too big to list each of your names here 😂)

Faith in yourself!

Great qoute by Swami Vivekananda :

"If you have faith in all the three hundred and thirty million of your mythological gods ... and still have no faith in yourselves, there is no salvation for you. Have faith in yourselves, and stand up to that faith and be strong; that is what we need."

Core values in life

Every person should have some core values in life and he must stick to them come what way, then only he will be respected by his inner self and will ultimately be happy in life.

Sometimes we tend to take decisions in life which relax our core values under the influence of our emotions but do remember that this will create an internal conflict if not the same day but later. This will not only create the feeling of disgust in you but also makes you a person of low integrity. So first identify what your core values in life are and always stick to them and be brave to take responsibility for the consequences of your actions based on those values.

Core values are fundamental beliefs each one of us have which constantly guide our behavior and help us in deciding what is right and wrong. Some of them might look like the one's below...

Sometimes we also get affected when people around us do not align to your core values but then we must realize that we have no control over other's actions. 

Perseverance is the key to success

One single word says it all !!!

Everyone dreams of achieving big goals in life which will make them feel proud and stay energetic (at least for sometime) in life, but not all of them will be able to march towards it.

One can quote tons of reasons for not being able to make it...I feel among many good things, perseverance is a virtue we all need to achieve great successes in life and to achieve things which might seem impossible to us today.

If you feel that you can't make it because you are facing obstacles or discouragements in your path the best way to come out of the feeling is to take inspiration from others who made things possible which seem to be impossible...it can be mountaineer who climbed the Everest after repeated setbacks or your father or sister who challenged themselves to come out of their comfort zone and made wonders in thier own careers despite of facing hurdles on their path.

Taking inspiration from others experiences in life will give you the confidence that you too can reach your goal which looks impossible today :-)

Independence vs Interdependence

Read a short story today which I could resonate the most, so wanted to share with you folks...here is how it goes...

A young girl and her father were walking along a forest path. At some point, they came across a large tree branch on the ground in front of them. The girl asked her father, “If I try, do you think I could move that branch?” Her father replied, “I am sure you can, if you use all your strength”.
The girl tried her best to lift or push the branch, but she was not strong enough and she couldn't move it. She said, with disappointment, “You were wrong, dad. I can't move it”. “Try again with all your strength,” replied her father.
Again, the girl tried hard to push the branch. She struggled but it did not move. “Dad, I cannot do it,” said the girl. Finally her father said, “Young lady, I advised you to use 'all your strength'. You didn’t ask for my help.

Moral: Our real strength lies not in independence, but in interdependence.

I always believe that interdependence plays a vital role in bringing out full efficiencies in us... But again its up to one's personal opinion as many of my friends always believe in working in silos or solving problems all by oneself or in short being independent :-)

Just you go for it...

Whenever a question comes to your mind about taking a decision about something in your life, take the decision based on what YOU want and what YOU feel is right for you and NOT based what OTHERS want or what OTHERS feel is right for you.

When you are making a decision based on what others feel right for you, today you might feel that they might be correct because of many reasons whether it might be they have more experience than you or they might be more wiser than you etc. but remember one thing it is you who should faces the consequences of the decision and not them!!!

Worst thing which can happen is you blaming your loved ones later in life for the decisions you took because they thought it is correct for you :-)

I have been seeing many examples around me which makes the point stronger and stronger each time I come across an instance... some friends taking bold career decisions and some taking bold decisions in personal life :)...Really proud of each one of you ra!!!

Dependencies.Dispose()

As I start writing this blog post, I strongly feel that I writing something which is against my beliefs but very much aligned to the views of most of my closest friends...

Wondering what I am talking about???

It is about dealing things all by yourself !!!

When I feel low or negative about anything these days I find it hard to get hold of a person to share my worries because they are not available when I need them due to various reasons whether it might be my second elder sister living in a different time zone or my close friends occupied with their own complexities in life 😊

Today I remember the words which Yamini keeps telling me always..."ONLY YOU CAN HELP YOURSELF". I feel it is high time I should take those words seriously in my life and start working towards it...

But at the same time I remember reading an article from The Hindu couple of months back which which highlights the fact that "Sharing our feelings with others who are supportive may help us see the irrationality underlining our thoughts. In addition, as we speak up, others may open up about their insecurities as well, which, in turn, may make us feel less alone"...

Conflicting views right??? Now I am thinking what should I do ?

Should I choose the way of handling things myself or Should I read the article's views differently and conclude that I don't have supportive people around me 😛 (My friends will kill me for this statement 🙈)

Thinking that there are no supportive people around me is not correct as I have many awesome friends who are always supportive... So let me choose the way of trying to handle things myself !!!