Fortunately this has never happened to me, but I have been seeing this happening with people around me back from the time I was doing my Bachelors of Engineering. I am sure that many of you also had been through or came across such situations either in your life or observed this in your friends life...
Without dragging it too much, setting the context about what I wanted to talk about today, "getting into a relationship". I might be wrong and this is only my view as I never came across such a situation till now in my life.
I have seen people get into a love relationship, being in that relationship for years and finally when it comes to marriage, unfortunately they don't succeed in convincing their parents and end up marrying a person who they don't want to... But I am surprised why don't they think of this before they decide to get into the relationship ( again not very sure what it means by saying getting into a relationship ).
And the reasons for the parents not agreeing are like our castes doesn't match, our religions are not the same, or our financial backgrounds are not the same but I would like to ask "don't you people know this before ? Are you not aware that these questions will have to answered someday ? Then why didn't you take a step forward at that point of time itself and discuss this your parents ? "
The answers which I got from people when I asked then the same questions are "when you don't know if he/she is the right person you want to live with , how do you start a conversation with your parents is it worth making a conversation at that point of time ? " Although I didn't answer it anytime, but I would say Yes it is really a worth of time having such conversation with your loved ones in the beginning only even if you are not sure, what's wrong in telling them ? you can say I am still thinking but are you OK with my decision ? If their answer is a NO it always a NO right ... so you will at least know upfront that something is not going to work out...instead of having an assumption that you will be able to convince then and finally ending up you getting convinced ...
Friends,
Just think of this once and you will never end up in a love failure!!
Without dragging it too much, setting the context about what I wanted to talk about today, "getting into a relationship". I might be wrong and this is only my view as I never came across such a situation till now in my life.
I have seen people get into a love relationship, being in that relationship for years and finally when it comes to marriage, unfortunately they don't succeed in convincing their parents and end up marrying a person who they don't want to... But I am surprised why don't they think of this before they decide to get into the relationship ( again not very sure what it means by saying getting into a relationship ).
And the reasons for the parents not agreeing are like our castes doesn't match, our religions are not the same, or our financial backgrounds are not the same but I would like to ask "don't you people know this before ? Are you not aware that these questions will have to answered someday ? Then why didn't you take a step forward at that point of time itself and discuss this your parents ? "
The answers which I got from people when I asked then the same questions are "when you don't know if he/she is the right person you want to live with , how do you start a conversation with your parents is it worth making a conversation at that point of time ? " Although I didn't answer it anytime, but I would say Yes it is really a worth of time having such conversation with your loved ones in the beginning only even if you are not sure, what's wrong in telling them ? you can say I am still thinking but are you OK with my decision ? If their answer is a NO it always a NO right ... so you will at least know upfront that something is not going to work out...instead of having an assumption that you will be able to convince then and finally ending up you getting convinced ...
Friends,
Just think of this once and you will never end up in a love failure!!
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