Be responsive - It does not cost much of your time

Human relationships are really important in every moment of our lives be in personal or professional. It is a proven fact at least in software industry that you might be a geek and expert in your field, but if you are arrogant or perceived to be arrogant / not responsive, it takes no time to lose your credibility...Though there are other principles like trust & responsibility, in my view responsiveness comes first!

May be I forgot to bring out my definition of responsiveness, it is "ANSWERING BACK... the answer can even be something like "I will answer you back in 7 days""

It is the minimum respect you can show towards a person which will make him/her feel that your value & appreciate their intention of approaching you.

Similarly in your social life, does not matter whether you are master of all ideals or you are solution provider for any problem that some one brings to you, all of your intellectual capabilities are valued only when you respond on time :)

Now you might be thinking that I am providing contradicting views as the beginning I said even giving an answer that "I will answer you back in 7 days" is fine, so here is my justification to that - your first response can be that, so that you at least give the other person the benefit of explaining you the urgency of the matter whether it might be "A million dollar loss to the company" or  "Need help, I just met with a accident !!!", just imagine what if you don't even give the first response back in such situations :P

Ending on a lighter note in a technical jargon: "When we expect so much of responsiveness with the things we interact daily like responsive UX in websites, responsive mobiles... Just reflect back for a minute and think how much important it is for yourself to be responsive individual"

My first interaction with 100

Came back home with feeling of  relaxation and accomplishment after walking around in the streets of Hyderabad in hot sun....

It has been more than six months I touched my pulsar and today I finally decided to pull out sometime to get this fellow some new power (oil change) :)....

Halted at one of Bajaj service centres and was waiting for mechanic to attend my bike, and I see a three year old kid crying and running in the middle of the road....:(

I tried to ask him details, but he doesn't speak out anything, but was showing some direction when I ask him where does he live... I somehow managed to make him stop crying and both of us started walking in the way which he was directing me and try to interact with each other in our alien language (facepalm)....

So after roaming in three streets and I finally realized that this buddi fellow is confused of the location :D The only hope I was left with was our Indian Police, so for the first time in my life I called up 100 and after providing the call center person with my details and the location, myself and this kid were sitting at the landmark which we provided to the police and waiting for callback from the nearest police station. With in 5 minutes I get a call from the police station speaking in a respectful voice asking me about the location and the details which I know about the kid.... luckily just before our conversation ended, the kid's dad showed up and the informed the same to the police officer, he thanked me and ended the conversation...

The reason I am sharing my experience today is to convey couple of things... first.. please take good care of innocent infants and educate people around you to teach their kids basic things like father's name and his name, nearest landmark so that it will be easy to get them back in such situations, second... never hesitate to take help of the police, they are very responsive :)

Signing off...
Happy Weekend :)

Busy days Part - III

This topic looks never ending to me.... May be because it is the best way to about friends ;) ....

So here are few more comparisons like the one's which I wrote in my previous posts...

This time let me shift the timespan for comparison... will compare the life in initial days of office as a new college hire to the life of a experienced software engineer...

I think the only phase of life where we have both money & time are your first two years of professional life .... when I say time its not about the leisure time you have but its all about how much time your friends have for you :)

Back in my first two years of joining we all used to lunch with a minimum of 10 people together... today its hardly 4... 

Back then... just a ping in WhatsApp group would be enough to go out for snacks in the evening... now have to block people's calendar :(

Fortunately for me & unfortunately for them... not even a single person in the gang we hangout with, had a Girlfriend/Boyfriend... so when they are with us.. they are really with us :P ... but now... I won't say because my married friends out there who will read this will kill me :P...

Emotional blackmail works as the best weapon in those days... but now people say.. come on! Grow up and behave like a matured person :-|

Back then I used to see frequent fights between close friends in the group... but now nah nah no fights at all... reason ? ... not sure :( may be they don't have time even to argue on something ... :-|

If not frequently... college friends used to meet and spend good quality time at least on our birthdays.. but today....hmmmm.... it looks like it's easier to get an appointment with the city commissioner than with my best of the best friends...

Back then... one small change in face expression would lead to the extremes of breach of privacy :P by friends until you burst out your worry and calm down... today everyone is pretty much occupied with their own worries and expect you to be matured enough to come out of it by yourself :P....

Nevertheless friends are always friends and they will be with you when you are in real need of them... so just ignore small misconceptions, accept the fact that things change with time and move on :)

Signing off for today... Happy Weekend folks !!!

Pause for a minute..

Today I am in a mood to talk about philosophy of dealing with one of the situations we generally face around us...

We often get into situations where we are in problem of difference of opinions... sometimes it is with our friends and sometimes it is with our family members and sometimes with our colleagues 

What are the different options we have when we are in such situations

First and the often one which many of us do is just tend to state our opinion and get out or stay away from the situation or discussion...of course i just can't do it somehow...

Second option we have is to agree to the other's opinion and try to convince yourself without even trying to make your point and convince the other person / group.

Third way we might react is by getting frustrated and end up either hurting ourselves and also people around us...

The last way and best way which I think is try to do as below...

In the first place the difference of opinion has come because we don't try take a minute to understand the other person's opinion and so we have a biased thinking of only our thoughts.. So take a pause of the screenplay going in your head and try to get into the shoes of the opposite person and try to understand the intention and points which are leading to their opinion. Even then if you think there is something wrong in their opinion then give at least one try to take them thru the same exercise as above and then they might agree to your opinion... :) 

But unfortunately as we all persons have different beliefs and behaviors, there might be situations where we end up with no resolution (in such case this blog might have a solution :) ) but at least we have that satisfaction that we at least gave a try to understand their point of view and try to make our point...    

Signing off for today...

Happy Weekend :)