Busy days Part - III

This topic looks never ending to me.... May be because it is the best way to about friends ;) ....

So here are few more comparisons like the one's which I wrote in my previous posts...

This time let me shift the timespan for comparison... will compare the life in initial days of office as a new college hire to the life of a experienced software engineer...

I think the only phase of life where we have both money & time are your first two years of professional life .... when I say time its not about the leisure time you have but its all about how much time your friends have for you :)

Back in my first two years of joining we all used to lunch with a minimum of 10 people together... today its hardly 4... 

Back then... just a ping in WhatsApp group would be enough to go out for snacks in the evening... now have to block people's calendar :(

Fortunately for me & unfortunately for them... not even a single person in the gang we hangout with, had a Girlfriend/Boyfriend... so when they are with us.. they are really with us :P ... but now... I won't say because my married friends out there who will read this will kill me :P...

Emotional blackmail works as the best weapon in those days... but now people say.. come on! Grow up and behave like a matured person :-|

Back then I used to see frequent fights between close friends in the group... but now nah nah no fights at all... reason ? ... not sure :( may be they don't have time even to argue on something ... :-|

If not frequently... college friends used to meet and spend good quality time at least on our birthdays.. but today....hmmmm.... it looks like it's easier to get an appointment with the city commissioner than with my best of the best friends...

Back then... one small change in face expression would lead to the extremes of breach of privacy :P by friends until you burst out your worry and calm down... today everyone is pretty much occupied with their own worries and expect you to be matured enough to come out of it by yourself :P....

Nevertheless friends are always friends and they will be with you when you are in real need of them... so just ignore small misconceptions, accept the fact that things change with time and move on :)

Signing off for today... Happy Weekend folks !!!

Pause for a minute..

Today I am in a mood to talk about philosophy of dealing with one of the situations we generally face around us...

We often get into situations where we are in problem of difference of opinions... sometimes it is with our friends and sometimes it is with our family members and sometimes with our colleagues 

What are the different options we have when we are in such situations

First and the often one which many of us do is just tend to state our opinion and get out or stay away from the situation or discussion...of course i just can't do it somehow...

Second option we have is to agree to the other's opinion and try to convince yourself without even trying to make your point and convince the other person / group.

Third way we might react is by getting frustrated and end up either hurting ourselves and also people around us...

The last way and best way which I think is try to do as below...

In the first place the difference of opinion has come because we don't try take a minute to understand the other person's opinion and so we have a biased thinking of only our thoughts.. So take a pause of the screenplay going in your head and try to get into the shoes of the opposite person and try to understand the intention and points which are leading to their opinion. Even then if you think there is something wrong in their opinion then give at least one try to take them thru the same exercise as above and then they might agree to your opinion... :) 

But unfortunately as we all persons have different beliefs and behaviors, there might be situations where we end up with no resolution (in such case this blog might have a solution :) ) but at least we have that satisfaction that we at least gave a try to understand their point of view and try to make our point...    

Signing off for today...

Happy Weekend :)

Realization after two decades

Its always good to start things on a lighter note...today I would to share the story of a kid who took the National pledge taught in school too seriously in life and finally realized the awkwardness after almost a couple of decades :)...

Story starts like this...

The kid used to go a Christian missionary school and every day morning, they recite the National Pledge and I think the part which he took too seriously is "All Indians are my brothers and sisters.."..

The effects of it started showing up more from the time he joined college. He was in his first year of engineering and two girls in his class became good friends of him, from then he started calling them sister's (pedhakka & chinnakka). Again why ?? He has no idea.... and what's the result.. the friendship went nuts :(

He thought chill boss, how can calling them differently can screw things up.. NO Way...

Story continues....

Fast forward one year again...in the second year of his college, one more girl became a good friend of him... same story repeat but result not too worse :P ..still good friends may be because he doesn't call her sister anymore ;)

By then he started realizing there is something fishy about having other ships attached to friendship :)

.. but didn't decide anything...so story continues again and again in his life many times even after he graduates and joins his professional life....
Fast forward after many experiences, he thought hmmmmmm this should be given a serious thought...

Why this change ??

 his inner soul told, as the friendship between a guy and a girl is easily mistaken by the people around them, so this is best way to give clarity to the society.....












Holdeeee.. you are in 21st century..

After having a deep thought and good conversations he realized why will people around him even have so much of free time to make assumptions about him and also if one or two have such time.. why should he even care about such people :P



Also he started facing problems when the story just doesn't end with calling them but also started feeling them as his own sisters as he compares them with his own sisters (that's the worst part though :P). Also he realized that every relationship may be friendship or a brother sister relationship has its own roles, responsibilities which should never be mixed to have a pleasant life. It's not at all wrong to be good close friends and its not impossible too :)

so he decided to take a new year resolution AFTER TWO DECADES that he will not mix up friendship with other such as bro-sis relationships and he is very happy with the two sweet sisters he have in his life (one god choose & the other he choose (yams of course you are an exception!!!))..

By now you might have guessed who the kid is... its none other than me and it is my story :)

Happy Holidays and Happy New Year 2015.

Busy days part II

Hope you had read my first post before you read this...

So i was talking about people getting busy once they leave college...

I got really good comments offline from my friends at office after reading the post saying that it was realistic, i guess they have also mapped with few of the instances from their life :)

But surprisingly my sister and dearest friend at college, who always praises my posts stating them as meaningful and realistic, didn't like that post much ( may be because i was talking negatively most of the time about college friends in that post). Sis, chill that was more of a generic post and was not targeting you :P

So thinking of few more things of what might have changed by then...

I think back in those days we don't really have big network of people around us and the small kingdom of college friends are always our priority second to our family..... but now we have a huge network of friends at work, outside work at office whom we THINK or unknowingly give more priority than our old college friends...

 

what could be reason behind this thought process ? Is it because of the confidence or assurance that we don't come across those college friends in our life again and it's ok to ignore them as it really doesn't make any bit of difference in our daily life ...

Or is the reason that we start taking things related to our college mates as granted as we don't expect them to get hurt given the fact there is a really good understanding between and no matter what we do, they are going to accept us :P

 

Back them our status to friends was something like this...

 

And now it is like this:

 

 

I know I am abruptly ending this post ... but Enough of the topic for today.. :)

 

To be continued...

Busy days

Today afternoon i was getting bored and have decided to recap few of my old memories from college....Have logged onto my google account which had many sweet memories in it's pictures...chats...mails and so on...

After going thru them i suddenly realized that it has been three and half years we left college :( and if i think of any of my best friends (or for that matter even me ) have become so busy with their own lives...

Few differences which i can clearly see are...

We used to talk a lot and spend time together with just a call...but for that to happen i have to write mails..block their calendar...even then no guarantee that we are going to meet...

Birthday parties we more day long starting with cake cutting at college and ending with late night dinners...but now it starts and ends with either just a breakfast or dinner..that too if people have time for me...

Back then i used to text my friend and get reply instantly...now i drop a email note and don't even expect a reply :(

Back then we had not good resources to go out and spend time with friends but i still remember we managed to go anatagiri hills in a auto, bus & train....Sanghi temple & airport on bikes... think of a place and people were always ready to go, only problem we used to think of is transport....but now even if i have my big Honda City, it's very difficult to find 4 people to accompany me for a long drive (pathetic right ? )

Not sure if it is my fault that i am in touch with my friends or they don't really think i am needed anymore..but the fact is people don't have time for their old college friends once they leave college...

To be continued....

Better think first instead of repenting later

Fortunately this has never happened to me, but I have been seeing this happening with people around me back from the time I was doing my Bachelors of Engineering. I am sure that many of you also had been through or came across such situations either in your life or observed this in your friends life...

Without dragging it too much, setting the context about what I wanted to talk about today, "getting into a relationship". I might be wrong and this is only my view as I never came across such a situation till now in my life.

I have seen people get into a love relationship, being in that relationship for years and finally when it comes to marriage, unfortunately they don't succeed in convincing their parents and end up marrying a person who they don't want to... But I am surprised why don't they think of this before they decide to get into the relationship ( again not very sure what it means by saying getting into a relationship ).

And the reasons for the parents not agreeing are like our castes doesn't match, our religions are not the same, or our financial backgrounds are not the same but I would like to ask "don't you people know this before ? Are you not aware that these questions will have to answered someday ? Then why didn't you take a step forward at that point of time itself and discuss this your parents ? "

The answers which I got from people when I asked then the same questions are "when you don't know if he/she is the right person you want to live with , how do you start a conversation with your parents is it worth making a conversation at that point of time ? " Although I didn't answer it anytime, but I would say Yes it is really a worth of time having such conversation with your loved ones in the beginning only even if you are not sure, what's wrong in telling them ? you can say I am still thinking but are you OK with my decision ? If their answer is a NO it always a NO right ... so you will at least know upfront that something is not going to work out...instead of having an assumption that you will be able to convince then and finally ending up you getting convinced ...

Friends,
Just think of this once and you will never end up in a love failure!!

Vacation Time

Not sure why I made this is as a habit, every year at the end of June I take a vacation from my hectic schedule of office work with out even having a plan of what to do during this time. But I realize that this is the best time I have every year to think about myself and spend sometime with myself :)

All my friends & family members might be thinking I am being crazy by doing this, as I would have said no when they asked me to take a day off because of some personal work or a wedding function to attend. But at that time I felt that my job, because of which I am living a successful & happy life, was more important for me than attending a wedding function.

But because of the wonderful company I work for, I always get an opportunity to take time to think about myself for a good amount of time once I am done with my fiscal year projects and work related responsibilities, THANKS to my company and my team !!!

This time it is 10 days of vacation, which starts from 23/06 and haven't planned anything yet..:-| But I have a new addition to my family to spend my vacation this time, my new Honda City :). Let's see how the vacation goes this time !!

But this really helps me each year to take time to really recharge myself, given a chance I would like everyone to try this once a year and you will also make it a habit :) ....