Realization after two decades

Its always good to start things on a lighter note...today I would to share the story of a kid who took the National pledge taught in school too seriously in life and finally realized the awkwardness after almost a couple of decades :)...

Story starts like this...

The kid used to go a Christian missionary school and every day morning, they recite the National Pledge and I think the part which he took too seriously is "All Indians are my brothers and sisters.."..

The effects of it started showing up more from the time he joined college. He was in his first year of engineering and two girls in his class became good friends of him, from then he started calling them sister's (pedhakka & chinnakka). Again why ?? He has no idea.... and what's the result.. the friendship went nuts :(

He thought chill boss, how can calling them differently can screw things up.. NO Way...

Story continues....

Fast forward one year again...in the second year of his college, one more girl became a good friend of him... same story repeat but result not too worse :P ..still good friends may be because he doesn't call her sister anymore ;)

By then he started realizing there is something fishy about having other ships attached to friendship :)

.. but didn't decide anything...so story continues again and again in his life many times even after he graduates and joins his professional life....
Fast forward after many experiences, he thought hmmmmmm this should be given a serious thought...

Why this change ??

 his inner soul told, as the friendship between a guy and a girl is easily mistaken by the people around them, so this is best way to give clarity to the society.....












Holdeeee.. you are in 21st century..

After having a deep thought and good conversations he realized why will people around him even have so much of free time to make assumptions about him and also if one or two have such time.. why should he even care about such people :P



Also he started facing problems when the story just doesn't end with calling them but also started feeling them as his own sisters as he compares them with his own sisters (that's the worst part though :P). Also he realized that every relationship may be friendship or a brother sister relationship has its own roles, responsibilities which should never be mixed to have a pleasant life. It's not at all wrong to be good close friends and its not impossible too :)

so he decided to take a new year resolution AFTER TWO DECADES that he will not mix up friendship with other such as bro-sis relationships and he is very happy with the two sweet sisters he have in his life (one god choose & the other he choose (yams of course you are an exception!!!))..

By now you might have guessed who the kid is... its none other than me and it is my story :)

Happy Holidays and Happy New Year 2015.

Busy days part II

Hope you had read my first post before you read this...

So i was talking about people getting busy once they leave college...

I got really good comments offline from my friends at office after reading the post saying that it was realistic, i guess they have also mapped with few of the instances from their life :)

But surprisingly my sister and dearest friend at college, who always praises my posts stating them as meaningful and realistic, didn't like that post much ( may be because i was talking negatively most of the time about college friends in that post). Sis, chill that was more of a generic post and was not targeting you :P

So thinking of few more things of what might have changed by then...

I think back in those days we don't really have big network of people around us and the small kingdom of college friends are always our priority second to our family..... but now we have a huge network of friends at work, outside work at office whom we THINK or unknowingly give more priority than our old college friends...

 

what could be reason behind this thought process ? Is it because of the confidence or assurance that we don't come across those college friends in our life again and it's ok to ignore them as it really doesn't make any bit of difference in our daily life ...

Or is the reason that we start taking things related to our college mates as granted as we don't expect them to get hurt given the fact there is a really good understanding between and no matter what we do, they are going to accept us :P

 

Back them our status to friends was something like this...

 

And now it is like this:

 

 

I know I am abruptly ending this post ... but Enough of the topic for today.. :)

 

To be continued...

Busy days

Today afternoon i was getting bored and have decided to recap few of my old memories from college....Have logged onto my google account which had many sweet memories in it's pictures...chats...mails and so on...

After going thru them i suddenly realized that it has been three and half years we left college :( and if i think of any of my best friends (or for that matter even me ) have become so busy with their own lives...

Few differences which i can clearly see are...

We used to talk a lot and spend time together with just a call...but for that to happen i have to write mails..block their calendar...even then no guarantee that we are going to meet...

Birthday parties we more day long starting with cake cutting at college and ending with late night dinners...but now it starts and ends with either just a breakfast or dinner..that too if people have time for me...

Back then i used to text my friend and get reply instantly...now i drop a email note and don't even expect a reply :(

Back then we had not good resources to go out and spend time with friends but i still remember we managed to go anatagiri hills in a auto, bus & train....Sanghi temple & airport on bikes... think of a place and people were always ready to go, only problem we used to think of is transport....but now even if i have my big Honda City, it's very difficult to find 4 people to accompany me for a long drive (pathetic right ? )

Not sure if it is my fault that i am in touch with my friends or they don't really think i am needed anymore..but the fact is people don't have time for their old college friends once they leave college...

To be continued....

Better think first instead of repenting later

Fortunately this has never happened to me, but I have been seeing this happening with people around me back from the time I was doing my Bachelors of Engineering. I am sure that many of you also had been through or came across such situations either in your life or observed this in your friends life...

Without dragging it too much, setting the context about what I wanted to talk about today, "getting into a relationship". I might be wrong and this is only my view as I never came across such a situation till now in my life.

I have seen people get into a love relationship, being in that relationship for years and finally when it comes to marriage, unfortunately they don't succeed in convincing their parents and end up marrying a person who they don't want to... But I am surprised why don't they think of this before they decide to get into the relationship ( again not very sure what it means by saying getting into a relationship ).

And the reasons for the parents not agreeing are like our castes doesn't match, our religions are not the same, or our financial backgrounds are not the same but I would like to ask "don't you people know this before ? Are you not aware that these questions will have to answered someday ? Then why didn't you take a step forward at that point of time itself and discuss this your parents ? "

The answers which I got from people when I asked then the same questions are "when you don't know if he/she is the right person you want to live with , how do you start a conversation with your parents is it worth making a conversation at that point of time ? " Although I didn't answer it anytime, but I would say Yes it is really a worth of time having such conversation with your loved ones in the beginning only even if you are not sure, what's wrong in telling them ? you can say I am still thinking but are you OK with my decision ? If their answer is a NO it always a NO right ... so you will at least know upfront that something is not going to work out...instead of having an assumption that you will be able to convince then and finally ending up you getting convinced ...

Friends,
Just think of this once and you will never end up in a love failure!!

Vacation Time

Not sure why I made this is as a habit, every year at the end of June I take a vacation from my hectic schedule of office work with out even having a plan of what to do during this time. But I realize that this is the best time I have every year to think about myself and spend sometime with myself :)

All my friends & family members might be thinking I am being crazy by doing this, as I would have said no when they asked me to take a day off because of some personal work or a wedding function to attend. But at that time I felt that my job, because of which I am living a successful & happy life, was more important for me than attending a wedding function.

But because of the wonderful company I work for, I always get an opportunity to take time to think about myself for a good amount of time once I am done with my fiscal year projects and work related responsibilities, THANKS to my company and my team !!!

This time it is 10 days of vacation, which starts from 23/06 and haven't planned anything yet..:-| But I have a new addition to my family to spend my vacation this time, my new Honda City :). Let's see how the vacation goes this time !!

But this really helps me each year to take time to really recharge myself, given a chance I would like everyone to try this once a year and you will also make it a habit :) ....
 

Out of your control

Few days back I came to know about a philosophy about how should we react to situations and understand them, will try to share few insights on the same...

Many times we worry about things which we can't get off our mind  and start thinking more and more about them to find a way to get rid of them...so sometimes I feel that there will be things which we cannot change or we cannot take control over, worrying about such things is a mere waste of time...

Here is philosophy or the prayer which I read a few days back and was inspired of the understanding behind it. It is called "the serenity prayer". Many of us might have already heard of it, but I know there are also few people like me :) who might be hearing about this for the first time, so let me put it down..

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

I didn't even knew the meaning of serenity when I first heard of this...:) serenity means "the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled."

If you are thinking that praying to god is what I am talking about, sorry that is not what I meant...The concept which I liked is the wordings in the above saying about realizing the difference between the things which one can change and one cannot change. After coming across this I started thinking about the situation in which I am in and segregate it first into one this category (which I CAN CHANGE and I CANNOT CHANGE)and then take the decision accordingly instead of over thinking in a directionless manner...:) 

Once you are conscious about this difference you will have a happier life :)

Taking Off....

I decided to create my blog today after getting inspired & motivated by reading the blog posts of one of my role models in life. Not sure if I will be helpful to someone by blogging but realized that this might be one of the good way to get things off my mind :)